5 basic things to check for when your baby seems unsoothable
You have tried everything. Rocking, soothing, talking, feeding, singing your baby and it just doesn’t work. Nothing helps to sooth her.
First of all, crying for babies is a communication that something is not the way it supposed to be. There is something off. We as adults have words to explain and even then, we don’t always manage to express our needs. So what do we expect from a baby?
Here are the basic 5 things why your baby might be crying
- Your baby might be warm; check depending on the season, what clothes your baby has on. Baby’s, in general, are 1 degree above our body temperature. Feel with 1 finger in the neck if the skin is damp or humid. In that case, I would suggest to remove some clothing or replace it with something lighter.
- Your baby might be cold; check again, depending on the season if your baby is warm enough. If not, add some clothes or a wrap and see if the crying stops.
- Your baby might have a dirty diaper; this can be from pee or poo. Diaper these days have an indication strip to check, specifically with newborns, if the diaper is wet or not. Since they are very absorbing, the indication strip is a good help. Babies are not used to having wet fabric around them so they let you know when they aren’t comfortable anymore.
- Your baby might have some air stuck in his intestines or stomach; after feeding (whether this is after bottle or breast) you need to burp your baby. This can take as long as 1 to 5 minutes and wait for the real good burp ;-). Tapping lightly in between the shoulder blades helps to release air out of the stomach. The second thing that helps is to tap lightly on her bum, in case of air in her tummy. But also way after feeding, air can give some irritation to your little one, so just try it out, even if she has had her last feed 2 hours ago.
- Your baby might need YOU; you as a mom have been her habitat for 9 months. You gave her safety, warmth, cuddles, etc. when she was still inside your womb. And now it will be the same but on the outside. You are still her habitat. That doesn’t change. What will change is her need to ask for everything, so she cries, for everything.
Another important detail to consider
- You feel stressed or sleep deprived and not relaxed; you are your babies habitat. So when you are different than usual, your baby believes that she might be in danger. She doesn’t know, can’t connect the dots that mom is tired and therefore is stressed. All she feels is that her habitat (read safe place) is not doing well. So she cries…… What can you do when this happens? Breathe, cry it out and ground yourself for a second. Or find help in the form of a friend or a doula. Someone that can help you to get a break from being a mom 24/7.
Because let’s be honest….. it’s tough sometimes. Know that you are not the only mom feeling this way.
Many mothers feel this way but don’t express it because everything on the outside should look happy and dandy, isn’t it? And when it’s not, you might come across as a bad mom.
Well, I’ve got news for you, no one has their %^&*) together perfectly, NO ONE. More about this on my next blog 😉
Mom of a 2 years and 8 month old and I know that I don’t have all my ^&*() perfectly together <3 and I’m perfectly fine with it (that’s the best part).
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